Should the proposition be agreed upon by both parties, the wedding, called bijav or bjav (sometimes abav, abjav) can take place.
On the wedding day relatives from the settlement and even further, from other villages or cities are present. They are to be honoured by an abundance of food and drinks, presented by the parents of the newlywed. From that moment onward, the two sets of parents are considered to be related, under the term xanamik, father/mother of the son/daughter in law. In spite of not being blood ties, the concept of xanamik is a very important one among Rroma.
At the wedding, all the guests give gifts to the newly-wed, sometimes even money and they return the politeness by giving small gifts to them. Of course, all guests sing and dance. The wedding ceremonies culminate when the young couple retires to their room (it used to be a special tent) where they'll consummate the union. Traditionally, all guests waited for the result - the blood traces proving that the girl was a virgin, thus demonstrating to all guest she was honourable. Sometimes, the bloody clothes were hung on a high place, to be looked at by any passer-by (one used to hang them on the top most tent pole). After this, the feast continues with renewed vigour. Should the girl not have been virgin, this disgraces her entire family and parents. They have to repay the dowry.
Among all Rroma groups another tradition exists: the abduction of the girl by the boy or rather the flight of the young couple when parents haven't formally agreed to a wedding. After a few days, the young couple returns in their clan and the wedding is then celebrated - the proof of virginity still has to be presented. In some Rroma groups, a symbolic form of this abduction is still practised.
A wedding lasts a minimum of three days, starting on the day the wedding is celebrated. Nowadays, in cities, the wedding is not celebrated at home but rather in a restaurant, and 200-300 guest are often present.
Among Muslim Rroma in the Balkan, the ceremonies take place as described, but with some Balkanic and Turkish elements in the ceremony (for example, the friends of the bridegroom bring him to the baths, cut his hair and shave him etc.).
After the wedding, the girl wears a scarf over her head. She is not free to show her hair to others than her husband - this would be a big shame. This tradition is still enforced among many Rroma, but in big cities, is slowly dying out.
The bride traditionally goes to live in her husband's family but the father and the mother of a bride nevertheless keep an eye on her life in her new family . Should anything untowards happen to her, should for example her husband beat her or otherwise mistreat her, should she have worries, her parents may take her back home for a while or definitively. In those case, they do not have to repay the dowry they received for their daughter.
Should the marriage not work, divorce is allowed among Rroma. This can either happen mutual consent or be judged in the Kris. Once divorced, both are free to marry again.